I’ve been thinking about advocacy… the greatest advocacy of all being between a mother and child. The important moment when the easiest and best thing you can do is just be there. Stand up for them. Listen and understand the person you aren’t. I don’t have kids yet but I’d like to believe that in the moments when I don’t have words or an answer I’ll be strong enough to say I believe in you and to stand up. If I have a child, we’ll create a revolution of our own.
I heard the best story today from a coworker. Her daughter is 7 and well, she has masculine tendencies. She plays hockey with the boys, wants everyone to call her L instead of Lisa and… well she’s just not a girly girl. She doesn’t idenitfy herself with a pony tails and dress. Well, L came home extremely upset one afternoon. That day, each student had to make a paper cut-out of themselves (you know, the big paper shape of yourself?). L’s teacher insisted that she use the girl shape — the one with the ponytail and skirt. She told her mom “this just isn’t how I see myself.” She furiously wrote an e-mail to tell her exactly what she thinks of this silly project. She’ll tell her not to force her beliefs on L. But she stopped herself from sending the e-mail.
The next day, she walked into the classroom to drop L off. In silence, the teacher watched her cross the room and announce “just fixing something.” Then, she pulls a pair of scissors from her purse and cuts the ponytail off the paper cut-out.
She said later, “the best I can do is be an advocate for her, whatever happens.”
Katrina Kibben is the Founder and Principal Consultant of Three Ears Media. For most of Katrina’s career, she has been a marketer living in a recruiter’s world – listening to both sides of the talent equation to understand the real issues and find solutions for engaging and hiring better people. Today, she uses her technical marketing know-how and way with words to help both established and emerging brands develop and deliver content that fuels smart recruitment marketing that makes the right people apply.
Katrina has written for Monster.com, HR.com, RecruitingDaily and many other digital publications. She is a recognized leader in recruiting and employer branding who speaks regularly at conferences around the world.