I had so many “do nothing” weekends in a row that I started to worry something was wrong. I found myself in therapy asking, “am I a hermit? Is something wrong?”
The answer was no, thankfully. I’m not a hermit. I’m tired. It turns out that exhaustion has a way of catching up with all of us, and I’m currently experiencing about ten years of fatigue at once. When I said it out loud – I’m just tired – it felt like relief. It also felt like permission to slow down and decide how I use the energy I have.
Adventure has been a remedy for the weariness – something to look forward to. My first attempt was to book a weekend in the mountains, which was great, except I grew up with accountants. It was clear to me that while I *could* afford this kind of adventure? I also want to retire at some point. I can’t be on vacation every weekend.
So I planned these mini-adventures. First, I research a park or trail within 1-2 hours of home with well-marked, easy routes. Then, early Saturday morning, I put my bike on the rack, pack a cooler, and go. I start with a ride, then journal and rehydrate near something beautiful, treat myself to a nice lunch on the way home, boom. Mini vacation. Bonus: I get to sleep in my bed.
My first one was just a few weeks ago. I drove to a beautiful park with miles of bike trails surrounding a reservoir. As I pulled up, I caught myself thinking the same thing I have every day since I moved to Colorado from Tennessee: I can’t believe I get to live here.
I parked, put on my helmet, and started to ride. Everything was perfect. It was flat, sunny, cool. I watched as families began to arrive and smiled, listening to the perfect playlist for this adventure.
It turns out, I do not have the same definition of “easy” or “well-marked” as the bloggers. As I rode, the trail split in a few places, and I just kept going right. Clearly, if I want to go in a big circle, continuing to curve right seemed like the wise choice. Not really.
I made a wrong turn somewhere. When I checked the clock, I figured out that I’d already been on my bike for almost 2 hours. I was 2 hours away from my car, and I had no clue how to get home.
I started to curse my creativity. F*ck adventure. F*ck bike rides. F*ck all my bright ideas. I was freaking out and very tired. The sun was getting significantly hotter, and I genuinely had no idea how to get to my car.
That’s when my survival instincts kicked in. First, to wonder if I looked nice enough for a stranger to pick me up on the side of the road. The answer is no. I might look nice but not “pick up a hitchhiker in 2021” nice. No one wants to end up on Dateline with a story that begins, “I let them in the car then…”
Next, some rational thoughts. “You have a phone. Get your GPS. Your life isn’t that hard.” I open my GPS to find that I am 13 miles from where I think my car is. More swearing here.
Eventually, I made it back. When I saw my car, I felt this overwhelming relief and gratitude. As I put my bike on the rack and grabbed my cooler, I couldn’t help but think how much my life right now is a lot like that trail.
We’ve all been there – whether you’re pedaling or just taking on a new chapter of life. You feel lost. Conditions change quickly. You get scared because you don’t know where you’re going, and you’ve never been here before. But somehow, you always get home.
Is it easy? Not really. Is it pleasant? Not all the time. But you get home.
Don’t forget that. Good, bad, or the days in between – we’re all heading where we belong, even if you feel lost. Truth is? There’s no such thing as a wrong turn. It’s just a different trail you’re supposed to be on.
Kat Kibben [they/them] is a keynote speaker, writing expert, and LGBTQIA+ advocate who teaches hiring teams how to write inclusive job postings that will get the right person to apply faster.
Before founding Three Ears Media, Katrina was a CMO, Technical Copywriter, and Managing Editor for leading companies like Monster, Care.com, and Randstad Worldwide. With 15+ years of recruitment marketing and training experience, Katrina knows how to turn talented recruiting teams into talented writers who write for people, not about work.
Today, Katrina is frequently featured as an HR and recruiting expert in publications like The New York Times, Chicago Tribune, and Forbes. They’ve been named to numerous lists, including LinkedIn’s Top Voices in Job Search & Careers. When not speaking, writing, or training, you’ll find Katrina traveling the country in their van or spending some much needed downtime with the dogs that inspired the name Three Ears Media.