On my first night in a campground just outside of Tampa, I stayed in one of the most beautiful places I think I’ve ever been. The water was so clear you could see the fish swimming between your legs. The sand was white and literally right behind the campsite. I’ve been living in Colorado for a really long time. Read: no beaches. I was excited to have time with my feet in the sand – you know, Margaritaville style.
As I untied my sneakers and sat on the shore, a couple of people walked up just south of me. They had all of the gear to go fishing. Now, let me remind you: it’s sunset. It felt like a weird time to be fishing but it turns out they had a lesson to teach me.
“Do it this way,” he said with confidence. “You have to pull the line the second it hits the water. You have to pull back faster. You have to go deeper.” They had all the fishing advice in the world. The other person seemed like they wanted the advice. Every few minutes they were asking, “did I do this right? Did I get it? Is that a fish?”
I learned to fish at a very young age thanks to a southern family who insisted on kids playing outside. I used to play in lakes and grab fish all the time. Fishing is not hard. People have been fishing since literal ancient times without any of this gear – so I couldn’t help but wonder why they kept asking so many questions.
At that moment, I looked into the water and saw a massive fish and a small school following it. I slowly slid my hands to sit under the water for a moment. I am not kidding you when I say this fish swam right between my hands. I caught the fish. I stood up and the fishermen down the way remarked: “Holy shit! How’d you do that?”
I knew I could catch a fish if I just allowed it to come to me. Then I did.
I’m sure this is going to sound a little bit like a fable, but stick with me here. Yes, this is a metaphor for life.
Have you ever considered how hard we make it to just be? How challenging it feels to not look around for answers or ask any questions? How easy it is to buy into the idea you need all the gear to trust yourself and your instincts?
Most of us were trained at a very young age to look around for help and advice. We were taught it’s important to get consensus, compromise, and make sure everyone has input. That’s not necessary.
This is your one and only life. And when you’re making decisions for your life, or in this case to make sure you get something to eat tonight, you need to do what you like. You need to pick what your gut tells you to do, and you don’t need some fancy equipment or advice to figure it out. You need to listen and allow.
That’s why my word of the year for 2022 is allow. Allow myself to trust in my gut. Allow my heart to make choices. Allow others to give to me even if I know I could do it myself. But to also allow my gut to speak the loudest.
I started this tradition of a word of a year with my friend Michaela three years ago before the pandemic. Every year she sends me a small token with my word of the year on it. I have last year’s hanging in my van.
Last year’s word was brave. I needed to move forward. I needed to see how I could navigate trusting myself. But this year? I allow. In the same way that this person allowed themselves to keep talking even if they knew how to fish. In the same way I will allow myself to choose.
So pick a word and remember that whatever happens next is your destiny. Allow it to happen. You can allow the good, the bad, and still catch the fish – whatever it is for you.
PS: if you’re allowing a new job to come into your life, this week’s blog post is for you. Read it here.
Katrina Kibben is the Founder and Principal Consultant of Three Ears Media. For most of Katrina’s career, she has been a marketer living in a recruiter’s world – listening to both sides of the talent equation to understand the real issues and find solutions for engaging and hiring better people. Today, she uses her technical marketing know-how and way with words to help both established and emerging brands develop and deliver content that fuels smart recruitment marketing that makes the right people apply.
Katrina has written for Monster.com, HR.com, RecruitingDaily and many other digital publications. She is a recognized leader in recruiting and employer branding who speaks regularly at conferences around the world.